1. Tell us about your background and a little bit about who you are?
I am a wife and a mother to three children.
I am originally from Sri Lanka. My parents and I emigrated to the States 14 years ago. I became a citizen of the United States just a week ago, which was quite exciting! I met my husband at Ave Maria University in South Florida and we were married in the summer of 2013. Since then we’ve been blessed with three beautiful children! Through the past 5 years of being a wife and a mother, I’ve had the most delightful adventure of raising these little ones to try and be the best version of themselves. By being a stay at home mother I’ve been through the peaks of happiness to the depths of exhaustion. Through it all, I wouldn’t change a single thing. My children have made me a better person, a better wife and a better mother.
2. What do you find most fulfilling and most challenging about motherhood?
One of the most fulfilling and challenging aspects of motherhood for me is homeschooling. I also incorporate the Montessori method into my life and my children’s lives as well. Watching my 4.5-year-old daughter read and make words with her moveable alphabet, including her and my 2.5-year-old son in our daily tasks around the house, answering inquisitive questions and listening to their observations about all the little things in life are aspects of motherhood that I immensely enjoy. The challenging part of this, is in between lessons and housework, things happen. Children get hungry, the baby wants attention, and sometimes the day just doesn’t go as planned. I’ve had to adapt to the spontaneity of motherhood, since I have always been a planner. I’ve had to learn to let the little things go. You can’t always have a perfect day, a perfect meal and a perfect lesson. Another challenge is not being able to see my husband as much as I’d like. He is a full time Dairy Veterinarian and he works anywhere from 10-12 hour days and occasionally gets called in for surgeries on weekends. We cherish every minute of Papa being home! The challenges of motherhood make me appreciate the joyous moments even more!
3. What does Motherhood look like for you right now? What do you love about where you are? What would you change?
I absolutely love this stage of motherhood especially because I’m starting to homeschool and getting the hang of balancing activities and school throughout the week. I also love that my children play together and slowly understand each other… most days! Since we don’t live close to neither one of our families and with my husband working such long hours I yearn for the day that we would be close to some family and that he would be home more often! I am hopeful that one day we will be able to have both.
4. How have you incorporated motherhood into your identity without losing your own individuality?
Femininity and spirituality have always been extremely important in my life. I’ve always tried to maintain my femininity even in the chaos of getting toilet water splashed in my face to baby drool dripping down my shirt. Through it all, a splash of lipstick and some eyeliner always gets me in a good mood and reminds me that I should always take care of myself. Staying in shape and getting into an exercise regime has also been extremely helpful to my identity. I wasn’t necessarily into exercising before I had babies. I have come to realize how important it is to be healthy, to exercise, and to watch what I eat, especially to keep up with my children but also to set a good example for them.
Now I’ve always had a spiritual life even before getting married, but I was finding it quite difficult to find the time as a mother to do more to nourish my soul. So I started to put in the extra effort, and even if it’s 5 minutes, I’ve been able to listen to podcasts about my faith, read a few pages of the books I’m reading and even pray!
5. What advice would you give women who are considering/desiring motherhood?
Motherhood is a beautiful and chaotic journey! It will test you to the highest of limits but also give you exuberant joy you never thought you could feel. My children teach me something new every day. Whether it is to grow in patience, to grow in faith and holiness, or to grow in love. They’re always there to remind me to serve God in the highest possible way! A quote I came across a few years ago by Archbishop Fulton Sheen is something that I absolutely adore.
“A woman is capable of more sacrifices than a man. Man is more apt to be a hero, through some great passionate outburst of heroism. But a woman’s love makes a thousand small sacrifices, sprinkling them through the days and the months; their very repetition gives them the character of the commonplace. Not only her soul, but her body, has some share in the Calvary of Redemption; furthermore, she comes closer to death than man, whenever she brings forth a child.” Archbishop Fulton Sheen (Life is Worth Living). With that, I hope I give you a glimpse into the beauty of Motherhood! Happy Mothering!